In dire need of a life-changing beating!!!!

[Lady Brave]

I'm with jsarno on the "spare the rod, spoil the child" belief. That's how I was raised. Shoot, growing up in the south you got spanked by everybody... parents, grandparents, teachers, family friends... it didn't matter. There's a big difference in beating your child and spanking them. If you're leaving bruises on a child, that's unacceptable. I don't believe in smacking your child across the face either. My dad always said that's what your rear end was designed for.

I think one of the biggest problems is when parents don't follow through on their ultimatums. You can tell a child to stop doing something as much as you want, but the moment you attach a consequence to their action and you don't follow through, the child learns how to manipulate you.

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

I'm with jsarno on the "spare the rod, spoil the child" belief. That's how I was raised. Shoot, growing up in the south you got spanked by everybody... parents, grandparents, teachers, family friends... it didn't matter. There's a big difference in beating your child and spanking them. If you're leaving bruises on a child, that's unacceptable. I don't believe in smacking your child across the face either. My dad always said that's what your rear end was designed for.

I think one of the biggest problems is when parents don't follow through on their ultimatums. You can tell a child to stop doing something as much as you want, but the moment you attach a consequence to their action and you don't follow through, the child learns how to manipulate you.

Excellent post. You are right on the money.

DRave, not to poo on psychology, but just about everything causes emotional trauma. People / kids / adults, whoever, need to be raised well enough to understand shit happens and overcome obsticles, whether emotional or physical.
I was abused for 18 years, so I could have taken the path of victim, and poor me, but I chose to realize that life can suck sometimes, but that doesn't mean life always sucks. I can focus on the negative, or try to learn something from it and change my life accordingly. Wisdom is only acheived through adversity.
I do sincerely hope no one goes through any kind of abuse of their life. It's a terrible thing to happen to anyone!