In Vitro Fertilization

SunnySide · 07-08-2021, 11:14 AM

so Im about to be 43, I have a 9 year old, Im good on the kid front (like really good) but my GF whose now 40 doesnt have any kids and wants one. Bad.

I feel like I cant deny a woman a chance to birth a child. I imagine its her ultimate purpose in life and without, life will always be half empty. Much like my need for beer and playing RDR2.

So we tried and nothing.

I had to do the classic swimmers in a plastic cup thing, I really wanted the whole experience. Going into their "private room", requesting some explicit porn videos from some female nurse, ya know .. the whole awkward experience. But its was closed during covid.

So I was relegated to jerking off in a public bathroom at work. Then had to drive like a maniac on 495 to drop the lil guys off within an hour. Got there and they were closed for lunch .. so I waited outside the door of a fertility clinic for 15 minutes holding a brown paper bag.

Surprisingly, after 28 years of being a big pot head .. I still have strong swimmers and no problems on my end. Which is great bc I was expecting them to say the boys are slowing down and then my GF making me stop smoking. I already decided if it was a problem on my end, id stop no argument.

So now weve paid a fertility clinic about 19k with another 9K due for In Vitro Fertilization. We are just a few days into this.

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Anyone go through this?

Some cool things I didnt know or maybe im a bit confused .. they can look at the DNA from both of us and see if there is an extra chromosone and weed out/not use some problem looking eggs and sperm. So thats cool.

Chico23231 · 07-09-2021, 10:11 AM

Good luck man…that’s a worthwhile project. Hope it works out

A coworker went through it bout 10 years ago and she was early 40s (42-43)… it was a process but everything was good

mooby · 07-09-2021, 10:18 AM

Good luck.

I had a joke ready to go about 2 fingers or three but I'll keep it positive in here. Hope it all works out for you.

SunnySide · 07-09-2021, 11:42 AM

Its pretty intense. We have a ton of needles and pens and liquids we have to keep in refrigerator ... we have to mix solutions together.

I think Im an average joe type guy, not smart but have some common sense .. and Im a bit overwhelmed with it all.

Gonna be weird if it works. My kid would be 6 when i hit 50 ... I wont be free until im in my 60s.

Oh well, kids rock.

SunnySide · 07-29-2021, 04:26 PM

So .. I got to go into a "jerk off" room today at the doctors office. Bucket list checked off.

I wish I took a photo. Exactly how you imagine it, that is exactly how it is. Pile of old porno mags with the covers ripped of them and stuff. A stack of porno dvds. They had asain chicks, black chicks, white chicks, hispanic chicks. I feel like who ever ordered them made sure to cover the spectrum of demographics. After not using or seeing porno dvds in decades, I really wanted to go through them and watch them all. I forgot how tintillating the covers are, as a guy there is just some natural uncontrollable reaction to a porno dvd covers. The chicks just looked hotter.

I of course didnt touch a single thing in there.

There was a little cubby hole with a small door, one on my side of a wall and a door on the other side. When I was done I would put the sample there.

Weird thing .. I could 100% crystal clear hear the employees on the other side of the wall. What if some "dont give a fuck" dude played a dvd and had the volume going? There was zero noise privacy.

Strangest part - there was a sign at the dvds that said "We count the dvds after each visit and if one or more are missing you will be charged". I highly doubt they have some nurse flipping through the dvds.

Anyways .. right now as we speak, we are making a baby or 15 ... in a petri dish. We have 15 eggs going.

SunnySide · 08-25-2021, 12:17 PM

35k in and none of the fertilized eggs are viable, despite being told everything looked great and good chance of success at every step .. right up until they said no chance.

We are going to pay for another 5k for meds and needles etc and do the process over again. Really weird sticking a needle 1 inch into someones belly 2-3x a night for a week or so. Unnerving.

If this second attempt doesnt work .. donor eggs? adoption? just shower my kid with love and a free college education since theres no siblings?

Writing this makes me come to the realization I havent been support enough of my lady. This is her hole and emptiness we are trying to fill. We sat down and talked after she got the news, I said all the right things, immediately said id pay the 5k more, let her know im right there with her .. but then life went right back to the normal busy everyone moving 100 mph with no time for reflection.

sdskinsfan2001 · 10-08-2021, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by SunnySide

35k in and none of the fertilized eggs are viable, despite being told everything looked great and good chance of success at every step .. right up until they said no chance.

We are going to pay for another 5k for meds and needles etc and do the process over again. Really weird sticking a needle 1 inch into someones belly 2-3x a night for a week or so. Unnerving.

If this second attempt doesnt work .. donor eggs? adoption? just shower my kid with love and a free college education since theres no siblings?

Writing this makes me come to the realization I havent been support enough of my lady. This is her hole and emptiness we are trying to fill. We sat down and talked after she got the news, I said all the right things, immediately said id pay the 5k more, let her know im right there with her .. but then life went right back to the normal busy everyone moving 100 mph with no time for reflection.

Any updates?

SunnySide · 09-18-2022, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sdskinsfan2001

Any updates?

We have to do an egg donor thing bc her eggs werent fertilizing. so I took a generic test a few weeks ago and we’ve been reviewing egg donors

Got married last Saturday

I’m always a high energy happy dude but today I woke just extra. Missed most of last weeks game so this was first game I get to really watch the game, cool etc I was doing stretches in my kitchen waiting for my morning coffee to brew

Just feeling real real good today

My lady spent some time upstairs during halftime I figured seeing iif her period came bc I wanted to smash after the game

After the game she showed me a pregnancy test

She’s fucking pregnant!

We know the percentages are small and so many things can happen but bro we are on cloud nine right now

What?! After all this there’s a chance?!

Fuck yeah!!

Giantone · 09-18-2022, 06:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SunnySide

We have to do an egg donor thing bc her eggs werent fertilizing. so I took a generic test a few weeks ago and we’ve been reviewing egg donors

Got married last Saturday

I’m always a high energy happy dude but today I woke just extra. Missed most of last weeks game so this was first game I get to really watch the game, cool etc I was doing stretches in my kitchen waiting for my morning coffee to brew

Just feeling real real good today

My lady spent some time upstairs during halftime I figured seeing iif her period came bc I wanted to smash after the game

After the game she showed me a pregnancy test

She’s fucking pregnant!

We know the percentages are small and so many things can happen but bro we are on cloud nine right now

What?! After all this there’s a chance?!

Fuck yeah!!

Congratulations , best to both of you!

htownskinfan · 09-18-2022, 07:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SunnySide

We have to do an egg donor thing bc her eggs werent fertilizing. so I took a generic test a few weeks ago and we’ve been reviewing egg donors

Got married last Saturday

I’m always a high energy happy dude but today I woke just extra. Missed most of last weeks game so this was first game I get to really watch the game, cool etc I was doing stretches in my kitchen waiting for my morning coffee to brew

Just feeling real real good today

My lady spent some time upstairs during halftime I figured seeing iif her period came bc I wanted to smash after the game

After the game she showed me a pregnancy test

She’s fucking pregnant!

We know the percentages are small and so many things can happen but bro we are on cloud nine right now

What?! After all this there’s a chance?!

Fuck yeah!!

Wow man thats fucking fantastic! 🙏

sdskinsfan2001 · 09-18-2022, 09:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SunnySide

We have to do an egg donor thing bc her eggs werent fertilizing. so I took a generic test a few weeks ago and we’ve been reviewing egg donors

Got married last Saturday

I’m always a high energy happy dude but today I woke just extra. Missed most of last weeks game so this was first game I get to really watch the game, cool etc I was doing stretches in my kitchen waiting for my morning coffee to brew

Just feeling real real good today

My lady spent some time upstairs during halftime I figured seeing iif her period came bc I wanted to smash after the game

After the game she showed me a pregnancy test

She’s fucking pregnant!

We know the percentages are small and so many things can happen but bro we are on cloud nine right now

What?! After all this there’s a chance?!

Fuck yeah!!

This is just fucking awesome. I'm so happy for both of you!! Congrats!!!

I was all excited about the getting married part, then you just ramped it up a notch, as I scrolled down. I don't know her, but tell her SDSkinsfan2001 loves both of y'all. Or don't tell her because she doesn't know me, but it's true!!! This night couldn't have ended any better. Hell yeah!!

mredskins · 09-18-2022, 10:44 PM

Congrats Sunny!

As the father of two teenagers, if I could turn back time. Lol I ked but teenagers sucks.

BaltimoreSkins · 09-18-2022, 10:52 PM

That is awesome SS!

sdskinsfan2001 · 09-18-2022, 11:31 PM

I'm still thinking about this. This is such an amazing perspective story for lots of us. So happy and excited for both of you!

SunnySide · 09-19-2022, 11:07 AM

Thanks yall ... but chances are very very low this has a happy ending. During the in vitro process, half her eggs fertilized but there were problems in each one. They were fertilized but not viable. Just getting an egg fertilized naturally is huge .. but I think its 99% certain this naturally fertilized egg isnt viable.

We were crying and dancing and smiling .. and talking about the happy future what ifs but in the next sentence saying its probably not going to work. Trying to keep the hopes in check.

Thats life.

Such amazing highs ... and lots of heartbreak and lows.

Yesterday was amazing. Right now its amazing. Warning of Icarus are very much in my ear though.

Nice to be able to say this stuff anonymously on the internet. I cant verbalize these thoughts with anyone in my real life.

07-08-2021, 11:14 AM	#1
SunnySide Playmaker Join Date: Sep 2019 Posts: 4,568	In Vitro Fertilization so Im about to be 43, I have a 9 year old, Im good on the kid front (like really good) but my GF whose now 40 doesnt have any kids and wants one. Bad. I feel like I cant deny a woman a chance to birth a child. I imagine its her ultimate purpose in life and without, life will always be half empty. Much like my need for beer and playing RDR2. So we tried and nothing. I had to do the classic swimmers in a plastic cup thing, I really wanted the whole experience. Going into their "private room", requesting some explicit porn videos from some female nurse, ya know .. the whole awkward experience. But its was closed during covid. So I was relegated to jerking off in a public bathroom at work. Then had to drive like a maniac on 495 to drop the lil guys off within an hour. Got there and they were closed for lunch .. so I waited outside the door of a fertility clinic for 15 minutes holding a brown paper bag. Surprisingly, after 28 years of being a big pot head .. I still have strong swimmers and no problems on my end. Which is great bc I was expecting them to say the boys are slowing down and then my GF making me stop smoking. I already decided if it was a problem on my end, id stop no argument. So now weve paid a fertility clinic about 19k with another 9K due for In Vitro Fertilization. We are just a few days into this. ----------------------- Anyone go through this? Some cool things I didnt know or maybe im a bit confused .. they can look at the DNA from both of us and see if there is an extra chromosone and weed out/not use some problem looking eggs and sperm. So thats cool.

07-09-2021, 10:11 AM	#2
Chico23231 Warpath Hall of Fame Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 34,234	Re: In Vitro Fertilization Good luck man…that’s a worthwhile project. Hope it works out A coworker went through it bout 10 years ago and she was early 40s (42-43)… it was a process but everything was good __________________ My pronouns: King/Your ruler He Gets Us

07-09-2021, 10:18 AM	#3
mooby Hug Anne Spyder Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 20,424	Re: In Vitro Fertilization Good luck. I had a joke ready to go about 2 fingers or three but I'll keep it positive in here. Hope it all works out for you. __________________ Hail to the Football Team

07-09-2021, 11:42 AM	#4
SunnySide Playmaker Join Date: Sep 2019 Posts: 4,568	Re: In Vitro Fertilization Its pretty intense. We have a ton of needles and pens and liquids we have to keep in refrigerator ... we have to mix solutions together. I think Im an average joe type guy, not smart but have some common sense .. and Im a bit overwhelmed with it all. Gonna be weird if it works. My kid would be 6 when i hit 50 ... I wont be free until im in my 60s. Oh well, kids rock.

07-29-2021, 04:26 PM	#5
SunnySide Playmaker Join Date: Sep 2019 Posts: 4,568	Re: In Vitro Fertilization So .. I got to go into a "jerk off" room today at the doctors office. Bucket list checked off. I wish I took a photo. Exactly how you imagine it, that is exactly how it is. Pile of old porno mags with the covers ripped of them and stuff. A stack of porno dvds. They had asain chicks, black chicks, white chicks, hispanic chicks. I feel like who ever ordered them made sure to cover the spectrum of demographics. After not using or seeing porno dvds in decades, I really wanted to go through them and watch them all. I forgot how tintillating the covers are, as a guy there is just some natural uncontrollable reaction to a porno dvd covers. The chicks just looked hotter. I of course didnt touch a single thing in there. There was a little cubby hole with a small door, one on my side of a wall and a door on the other side. When I was done I would put the sample there. Weird thing .. I could 100% crystal clear hear the employees on the other side of the wall. What if some "dont give a fuck" dude played a dvd and had the volume going? There was zero noise privacy. Strangest part - there was a sign at the dvds that said "We count the dvds after each visit and if one or more are missing you will be charged". I highly doubt they have some nurse flipping through the dvds. Anyways .. right now as we speak, we are making a baby or 15 ... in a petri dish. We have 15 eggs going.

08-25-2021, 12:17 PM	#6
SunnySide Playmaker Join Date: Sep 2019 Posts: 4,568	Re: In Vitro Fertilization 35k in and none of the fertilized eggs are viable, despite being told everything looked great and good chance of success at every step .. right up until they said no chance. We are going to pay for another 5k for meds and needles etc and do the process over again. Really weird sticking a needle 1 inch into someones belly 2-3x a night for a week or so. Unnerving. If this second attempt doesnt work .. donor eggs? adoption? just shower my kid with love and a free college education since theres no siblings? Writing this makes me come to the realization I havent been support enough of my lady. This is her hole and emptiness we are trying to fill. We sat down and talked after she got the news, I said all the right things, immediately said id pay the 5k more, let her know im right there with her .. but then life went right back to the normal busy everyone moving 100 mph with no time for reflection.

09-18-2022, 10:44 PM	#12
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 12,641	Re: In Vitro Fertilization Congrats Sunny! As the father of two teenagers, if I could turn back time. Lol I ked but teenagers sucks. __________________ When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!

09-18-2022, 10:52 PM	#13
BaltimoreSkins Pro Bowl Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Parkton, MD Posts: 5,616	Re: In Vitro Fertilization That is awesome SS! __________________ JD 5 is alive

09-18-2022, 11:31 PM	#14
sdskinsfan2001 Living Legend Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Hanahan, South Carolina Age: 41 Posts: 19,795	Re: In Vitro Fertilization I'm still thinking about this. This is such an amazing perspective story for lots of us. So happy and excited for both of you! __________________ "You can be my wingman anytime." "Bulls**t. You can be mine."

09-19-2022, 11:07 AM	#15
SunnySide Playmaker Join Date: Sep 2019 Posts: 4,568	Re: In Vitro Fertilization Thanks yall ... but chances are very very low this has a happy ending. During the in vitro process, half her eggs fertilized but there were problems in each one. They were fertilized but not viable. Just getting an egg fertilized naturally is huge .. but I think its 99% certain this naturally fertilized egg isnt viable. We were crying and dancing and smiling .. and talking about the happy future what ifs but in the next sentence saying its probably not going to work. Trying to keep the hopes in check. Thats life. Such amazing highs ... and lots of heartbreak and lows. Yesterday was amazing. Right now its amazing. Warning of Icarus are very much in my ear though. Nice to be able to say this stuff anonymously on the internet. I cant verbalize these thoughts with anyone in my real life.

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