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Originally Posted by Lady Brave
I'm with jsarno on the "spare the rod, spoil the child" belief. That's how I was raised. Shoot, growing up in the south you got spanked by everybody... parents, grandparents, teachers, family friends... it didn't matter. There's a big difference in beating your child and spanking them. If you're leaving bruises on a child, that's unacceptable. I don't believe in smacking your child across the face either. My dad always said that's what your rear end was designed for.
I think one of the biggest problems is when parents don't follow through on their ultimatums. You can tell a child to stop doing something as much as you want, but the moment you attach a consequence to their action and you don't follow through, the child learns how to manipulate you.
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Excellent post. You are right on the money.
DRave, not to poo on psychology, but just about everything causes emotional trauma. People / kids / adults, whoever, need to be raised well enough to understand shit happens and overcome obsticles, whether emotional or physical.
I was abused for 18 years, so I could have taken the path of victim, and poor me, but I chose to realize that life can suck sometimes, but that doesn't mean life always sucks. I can focus on the negative, or try to learn something from it and change my life accordingly. Wisdom is only acheived through adversity.
I do sincerely hope no one goes through any kind of abuse of their life. It's a terrible thing to happen to anyone!