The Relationships Thread

We argue about everything don't we? Lol



It's one of my reasons for living. Now D.Rave I'm not a relationship guru nor do I pretend to be one on TV, and I got married at 22 to a girl I've known since elementary school, so my advice is to say good riddance to the ex as hard as it may be.

It's one of my reasons for living. Now D.Rave I'm not a relationship guru nor do I pretend to be one on TV, and I got married at 22 to a girl I've known since elementary school, so my advice is to say good riddance to the ex as hard as it may be.

We do agree on that though, I married at 22 to the girl I've knows since I was 13

Great minds think alike.

Great minds think alike.

True that

that is forever etched into my mind.



Btw, i consider myself a lesbian trapped in a mans body if that helps my chances...



Dang i'm the creepy gym guy on the warpath!



aye girl!

Yeah, well you know, love comes in spurts.

I disagree with those who say you always need a clean break after it is over. I think it depends on circumstance. I have some ex's who I happily will never see again but also a couple of ex's who remain nice friends.

The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.

The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.

I'll be 50 this summer so age has nothing to do with my statement.

I agree that sometimes ripping off the bandaid is the right move. But, from another perspective, you saw enough in that person to be lovers but not enough to be friends? I therefore disagree that the only reason to stay friends is unresolved feelings. The fact is, if both parties are mature and caring, sometimes you can be just friends. Like I said, I have a couple of folks in my life who fit this description.

I think humans love to affix rules and regulations to things, it is our nature.

BUT love is something that is so different for ever person and it is different in ever relationship they have.

You can not paint broad strokes of advice and expect them to work for everyone or anyone.

My only advice would be if you are in abusive relationship (physical/ mental) get out of it; otherwise only you know what is best for your love life, no one else is intimate enough with your feelings to truly give you advice.

Yeah, well you know, love comes in spurts.

And spurts come from love.