On Marriage

They're pretty good Seattle based company...my boy was telling me on Friday they're looking for software developers. Have you or yours ever bought any jewelry from them?

This is where I got the ring for my wife from. It's nice because you can pick out the individual stone and actually customize the setting. I was a little nervous not physically seeing it, but they came highly recommended by a friend of mine.

This is where I got the ring for my wife from. It's nice because you can pick out the individual stone and actually customize the setting. I was a little nervous not physically seeing it, but they came highly recommended by a friend of mine.

I went the same route. After shopping around the mall stores I was really turned off by their prices and lack of quality. I don't recall how I found Blue Nile but I'm so glad I did. The stone I got for my wife was very high quality. I referred my Dad to them when he got re-married and they were very happy with BN too.

1. First tip is to make sure that when you DO find someone that might be the one, you make DAMN sure. I've seen too many of my friends get married within 2-3 months of meeting someone.

2. I knew my wife the moment I saw her. That's corny as hell but true. I was 15, and it's insane to say, but I knew it. We're working on twelve years together and two years of marriage.

3. To keep the spark going, NEVER take yourselves too seriously. The second you start feeling like you're older, that's when the spark will start to go away. Sure, people grow and people change a little bit, but what you fell in love with is always going to be there. My wife and I had random beers last Wednesday night and danced outside on our back porch for about an hour. Not slow dancing, just ridiculous, hilarious dancing. Which also reminds me, make a date to get some at LEAST once a week.

4. The main adjustments I had to make was to realize that I am no longer a bachelor (not like I ever was, but I DID live alone). Remember to share everything equally whether it's money or chores.

5. Take it from someone who's 27 and has NO plans for kids in the current future... DON'T DO IT UNTIL YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY READY. We have a lot of couple friends and all of them are getting knocked up because it's "what you're supposed to do at that age." At least half of them admit to me privately they wish they hadn't had them. For the people who have kids, I'm sure they love them unconditionally, but until you're ready for that burden, make damn sure you're ready to contribute a LARGE part of your free time and money to deal with feedings, changing diapers, and spending at least one or two hours just to get them ready for a simple outing. Fun times. Your marriage will never be the same for better or worse when you have children.

Agreed, most definitely. My wife and I are both older than you, and we just decided to put it off a little more because of a vacation we want to go on. We're having a lot of fun together, period.

So you don't think a two state solution is feasible?

It takes two to tango. The simple, obvious thing about the Arab-Israeli conflict that too many people fail to see is that the Palestinians are the ones who don't want a two-state answer. They're playing the long term 50 or 100 year game. Once you see that they are the ones who don't want a settlement, the whole thing becomes very predictable and understandable. It all makes sense.

As for marriage, if you dally and wait past 25 all the good girls are taken. You're only chance is widows and hardly anyone dies anymore.

It takes two to tango. The simple, obvious thing about the Arab-Israeli conflict that too many people fail to see is that the Palestinians are the ones who don't want a two-state answer. They're playing the long term 50 or 100 year game. Once you see that they are the ones who don't want a settlement, the whole thing becomes very predictable and understandable. It all makes sense.

As for marriage, if you dally and wait past 25 all the good girls are taken. You're only chance is widows and hardly anyone dies anymore.

Dude, you know it's not the 1950's anymore right?

Dude, you know it's not the 1950's anymore right?


I know that was the dumbest comment ever, seriously there are great women at any age.

I know that was the dumbest comment ever, seriously there are great women at any age.

Depends on your operating definition of "great"!

I might ruffle feathers here, and if so sorry, this is my opinionated side coming out. I'd automatically rule out any of the following as a potential mate:

- Any woman who's been divorced. If it wasn't successful in round one, the odds of it being unsuccessful in round 2 are a ton higher than with someone who's never been divorced.

- Any woman who's been abused. Way too much emotional baggage.

- Any single mother. Their decision-making when choosing a potential mate will be clouded by the natural desire to have someone to share the workload and responsibility of raising children.

Not to mention younger women are generally more attractive. I tend to agree that age makes a big difference (though 25 might be unrealistic). Simply because the field gets narrowed down to those with baggage after a certain point.

To be fair, same thing goes for men to an extent. So ladies out there please understand, I'm not being sexist, I'm just an asshole.

There's a statistic you hear a lot; approximately 50% of American marriages end in divorce.

Keep in mind this does not mean 50% of people who get married end up divorced. This means 50% of the unions entered into end up in divorce. There are plenty of "frequent fliers" when it comes to divorce. Many who get divorced once get remarried and then divorce again, and again. My buddy's father (who's pretty much the most self centered man ever) has gotten married and divorced 6 times. He's now engaged to a 7th.

The repeat divorcees carry a disproportionate share of the divorces in this country. So while 50% of marriages end up in divorce, more than 50% of the people who get married never get divorced.

All this is to say, if you get hitched to someone who has gotten divorced before, the odds of you getting divorced are much higher than for that young engaged couple who have never been married before.

I might ruffle feathers here, and if so sorry, this is my opinionated side coming out. I'd automatically rule out any of the following as a potential mate:

- Any woman who's been divorced. If it wasn't successful in round one, the odds of it being unsuccessful in round 2 are a ton higher than with someone who's never been divorced.


What if you were also divorced?

- Any woman who's been abused. Way too much emotional baggage.

Agreed.

- Any single mother. Their decision-making when choosing a potential mate will be clouded by the natural desire to have someone to share the workload and responsibility of raising children.

I think that's generalizing just a bit.

Not to mention younger women are generally more attractive. I tend to agree that age makes a big difference (though 25 might be unrealistic). Simply because the field gets narrowed down to those with baggage after a certain point.

I dunno, have you seen some of the cougars out there? LOL

To be fair, same thing goes for men to an extent. So ladies out there please understand, I'm not being sexist, I'm just an asshole.

We know, ;)

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